A few days ago I decided that I need to start getting a grip on my life. A majority of the reason for my high stress factor is my beautiful daughter, Destiny. But before I get to lost into my world that revolves around her, let me tell you a bit about myself and my family.
I am a one time divorced, remarried 34 year old mother of 3. My oldest son, Thomas is one of the coolest kids a parent could ask for. He is hysterically funny, very charming, handsome and very laid back. He is 11 and getting ready to start me on my adventure of middle school. My middle daughter, Kylee, is almost as cool as Thomas, minus the laid back part. She is gorgeous, funny, very independent and also full of drama. She sings to her own tune and sometimes I just tune her out. She is starting the 3rd grade and is just happy that her older brother is no longer at her school. My youngest daughter, Destiny, is 3 and will be 4 very soon. She is a product of my second marriage. Well actually, she was the product before my second marriage took place. She is also gorgeous, very silly and extremely loving. She is also severely ADHD. (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder)
For those parents that have never had to deal with a child that is ADHD, count your blessings.
Now don't get me wrong, I would not trade her for the world. I would, however, take her down a few notches in the activity department. But her ADHD is what makes her, well her.
Now, you are probably wondering, "If she loves all of her kids equally, then why is her blog named My Destiny". Well, that is because my whole day revolves around her. Thomas and Kylee are old enough that they keep themselves occupied and they are also in school. My whole day is spent chasing Destiny around and laughing at her silly antics. And at night, when I sit down to reflect on my day, instead of pulling my hair out, I figured that I could write about her and share her with the world.
When Destiny was a baby she was so good. She was quiet and slept through the night from birth. All of my kids were pretty much the same until the age of 2. Thomas has always had the same laid back mentality. So he was never a problem. You could take him anywhere in public. Kylee developed her love for drama and attitude when she was 2. But she also was very sweet. When Destiny turned 2, I thought she was switched at birth. No, seriously, she did things that other kids didn't do.
One of the few bad habits that she started was playing with her poop. Yes, I said it. She would take her diaper off and put poop everywhere. And I mean everywhere. She wrote on the walls, the carpet, her hair. It was the most disgusting thing I have ever witnessed. And she did it all the time. We did everything we could think of to stop this from happening. Finally, after 6 moths, we found that buying one piece, zip up pajamas with no feet, worked perfectly if you put them on backwards (thanks Mom). We started potty training when she was almost 3. And that she actually picked up on fast only because she hated pull ups but loved Spongebob underwear. She also picked up this habit of running. And running off. From the moment she wakes up and her feet hit the floor, shes running. And if we go out in public she runs off. And she thinks its funny if you try to chase her because then she just runs faster.
And she is also very embarrassing in public, which is why I don't take her anywhere during the day. She likes attention and she doesn't care how loud or obnoxious she has to be to get it. And she has a very short attention span. Which makes things worse. The only thing I can say is that if you haven't had the pleasure of going out with us, your lucky. My mother refuses to go anywhere if all of us are going.
There are so many things that she does it is very hard to sit here and name them all. So with my concern I decided to take her to a therapist. And there she was diagnosed with severe ADHD. Not just regular, severe. So their conclusion was to see a behavioral therapist. Which is complete crap. Imagine the Super Nanny trying to tell you how to get your kid to behave. It didn't last very long. She is to young to be on medication, which actually was a last resort for me.
Everyday she keeps me on my toes and does something that I think is so extreme that it couldn't possibly get any worse. And then the next day she tops it. She does things that I wonder how her mind really works. The very few times she is still I can see the wheels turning in her head. She has flooded my bathroom, poured salt all over the kitchen, emptied the cat box, gotten in to all of my makeup, covered herself in vasoline. And this isn't from not watching her. She sneaks and does stuff so quickly. This is how it goes....
My day is spent "No, Destiny, stop Des, please don't do that, put that down". She likes to test the limits and see how far she can push me. And when I suddenly find myself enjoying a few minutes of peace and quiet, BAM something is ruined.
But then in the very next minute she is so sweet and loving it is so hard to be mad at her. She tells me she loves me every 5 minutes. She tells me how awesome I am. Yesterday we were watching a movie and she showed me how sensitive and sweet she is because she started crying about the baby zebra being separated from his parents.
So that is the reason I decided to start blogging. To remind myself that it's not all crazy and hectic with her. She is just my Destiny.
